For anyone done with swiping

Date before you date.

Simmer lets your AI twin — your Simmie — build a real story with someone through shared moments, evolving conversations, and unexpected situations, before you ever decide to meet.

A woman creates her Simmie on her phone at a sunny café

1She tells Ember who she is. Her Simmie is created.

Two Simmies on a simulated date with 84% compatibility

2Dinosaurs, dark comedy, staying in on Fridays. Her Simmie's convinced.

The real couple meets outside a coffee shop, laughing

3Her Simmie found it first. She showed up knowing.

Out with quantity, in with quality

Stop sampling. Start going deeper.

Simmer focuses your energy and makes exploring depth more fun and more informative. Your Simmie builds a real story with someone before you've spent a single evening. When you get to the first date, you already share a history.

Two people playing pickleball on a sunny California court

Two people walking together along the Bay Area waterfront

How it works

Know before you go.

Meet Ember.

Tell her who you actually are

Ember is your AI matchmaker and coach — trained on relationship science, attachment theory, and everything happening in your dating life. She asks the questions that actually matter: not your height and your favourite films, but what a good relationship looks like for you. From that, she builds your Simmie — an AI version of you that can meet people on your behalf.

Your Simmie goes first.

Let the story build before you show up

Your Simmie goes on simulated dates with a potential match — built around what you both actually care about. The conversations are real. The compatibility signals are real. Your Simmies build a story together across shared moments, so by the time you're involved, there's already something worth exploring. If it's not there, you've lost nothing.

Ember gives you her read.

Show up knowing, not hoping

Ember has been watching the whole thing — every moment your Simmie and theirs spent together, where the connection built, where it stalled, what the dynamic felt like over time. She walks you through what she noticed, honestly and specifically, so you can decide whether it's worth your Friday night.

Built different

Most dating apps are built for sampling.
Simmer is designed for depth.

We win when you win — by finding you someone to build your Simmer timeline around. Ember keeps learning as you date, building a memory of your shared story, spotting patterns, and staying honest with you at every stage.

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While you're dating: Ask Ember anything. Who should I focus on? What patterns do you see? Any red flags I'm missing? She's seen every interaction from the beginning.

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When you find someone: Simmer shifts into relationship mode. Your shared timeline — every simulated moment, every real date — becomes the foundation. Ember keeps coaching, long after you've both deleted every other app.

Ready to meet someone worth showing up for?

Early access · Bay Area

Frequently Asked Questions

Yes. The AI conversations, compatibility signals, and date debriefs are all real technology. This is an early access preview — the full product will connect you with real people in the Bay Area. What you're signing up for is priority access when we launch.

We're planning to launch in select Bay Area cities later this year. Join the waitlist to get priority access when we go live in your area. Early members will get exclusive benefits and help shape the product.

Ember starts by getting to know you — your values, your communication style, what you're genuinely looking for. She uses that to build your Simmie, which goes on a simulated date with a potential match. Afterward, Ember gives you her honest read on what she noticed and whether it's worth pursuing.

No — and this is one of the things that makes Simmer different. Ember keeps learning as you date. She builds a memory of your interactions, spots patterns, and keeps giving you honest feedback at every stage. When you find someone worth keeping, Simmer shifts into relationship mode. Your timeline becomes a record of your relationship from the very beginning. Most apps are designed to be deleted. Simmer is designed to stay.

Tinder optimises for volume. Hinge and Bumble optimise for first dates. All three put you in a room with a stranger and hope for the best. Simmer does something different: your Simmie builds a real story with a potential match before you're involved at all. By the time you show up, you're not strangers — and Ember doesn't stop coaching when you find someone. She keeps going.

Sort of. We like to think we're not torturing your Simmie quite as much. Running simulations to find the right match and skipping the awkward first dates — same idea. And worth noting: it's one of the few Black Mirror episodes with a genuinely hopeful ending.

Ready to go deeper?

Early access · Bay Area launch coming soon.
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