For anyone done with swiping

Date before you date.

Simmer lets your AI twin — your Simmie — build a real story with someone through shared moments, evolving conversations, and unexpected situations, before you ever decide to meet.

A woman creates her Simmie on her phone at a sunny café
1She tells Ember who she is. Her Simmie is created.
Two Simmies on a simulated date with 84% compatibility
2Dinosaurs, dark comedy, staying in on Fridays. Her Simmie's convinced.
The real couple meets outside a coffee shop, laughing
In-app chat between the matched couple
3Her Simmie found it first. She showed up knowing.
Out with quantity, in with quality

Stop sampling. Start going deeper.

Simmer focuses your energy and makes exploring depth more fun and more informative. Your Simmie builds a real story with someone before you've spent a single evening. When you get to the first date, you already share a history.

Two people playing pickleball on a sunny California court
Two people walking together along the Bay Area waterfront
How it works

Know before you go.

Meet Ember, your AI dating coach
Step One
Meet Ember.

Ember is your AI matchmaker and coach — trained on relationship science and attachment theory. She asks what actually matters. Not your height. Not your favourite films. What a good relationship looks like for you. From that, she builds your Simmie.

Two Simmies on a simulated date
Step Two
Your Simmie goes first.

Your Simmie meets a potential match and builds a real story with them — shared moments, real conversations, unexpected situations. The compatibility signals are real. The only thing you haven't spent is your evening.

Ember's Read and debrief
Step Three
Ember gives you her read.

Ember's been watching the whole thing — where the connection built, where it stalled, what the dynamic felt like over time. She walks you through it honestly, so you can decide if it's worth your Friday night.

Built different

Most dating apps are built for sampling.
Simmer is designed for depth.

We win when you win — by finding you someone to build your Simmer timeline around. Ember keeps learning as you date, building a memory of your shared story, spotting patterns, and staying honest with you at every stage.

01

While you're dating: Ask Ember anything. Who should I focus on? What patterns do you see? Any red flags I'm missing? She's seen every interaction from the beginning.

02

When you find someone: Simmer shifts into relationship mode. Your shared timeline — every simulated moment, every real date — becomes the foundation. Ember keeps coaching, long after you've both deleted every other app.

Ready to meet someone worth showing up for?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Yes. The AI conversations, compatibility signals, and date debriefs are all real technology. This is an early access preview — the full product will connect you with real people in the Bay Area. What you're signing up for is priority access when we launch.
We're planning to launch in select Bay Area cities later this year. Join the waitlist to get priority access when we go live in your area. Early members will get exclusive benefits and help shape the product.
Ember starts by getting to know you — your values, your communication style, what you're genuinely looking for. She uses that to build your Simmie, which goes on a simulated date with a potential match. Afterward, Ember gives you her honest read on what she noticed and whether it's worth pursuing.
No — and this is one of the things that makes Simmer different. Ember keeps learning as you date. She builds a memory of your interactions, spots patterns, and keeps giving you honest feedback at every stage. When you find someone worth keeping, Simmer shifts into relationship mode. Your timeline becomes a record of your relationship from the very beginning. Most apps are designed to be deleted. Simmer is designed to stay.
Tinder optimises for volume. Hinge and Bumble optimise for first dates. All three put you in a room with a stranger and hope for the best. Simmer does something different: your Simmie builds a real story with a potential match before you're involved at all. By the time you show up, you're not strangers — and Ember doesn't stop coaching when you find someone. She keeps going.
Simmer is always free to use. You get daily credits for Ember coaching and Simmie dates, no catch. If you want to go further, Simmer Gold is an optional monthly subscription that gives you more daily credits, full control over your match preferences, and a few other perks. Pricing details land closer to launch — joining the waitlist costs nothing either way.
Sort of. We like to think we're not torturing your Simmie quite as much. Running simulations to find the right match and skipping the awkward first dates — same idea. And worth noting: it's one of the few Black Mirror episodes with a genuinely hopeful ending.

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